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Failure turned Success
June 3rd, 2010 | 
Author: I’m 37 days away from the wedding and it seems like everything that “can” go wrong, IS!!
In the past week we had to “let go” of our current pastor and find someone else, the hotel that we are using to block rooms is not being cooperative and has changed the pricing on me (dramatically), my DIY bouquets for the bridal party were a complete failure and I failed to make the final payment to our photographer by the due date because I have somehow LOST our contract and didn’t know it was due!
I’m emotionally drained. I have never wanted to give up on something so badly as I do this wedding! Why didn’t we go to the courthouse or elope?
But, I can see light at the end of the tunnel….. Our new officiant is so totally cool. She understands our “vision” and hasn’t tried to push us to do something we are uncomfortable with. Not to mention that she has such a great personality. She is funny and a bit of a wise-ass just like my fiance! What a perfect fit!
Yes, the hotel has raised their prices but they are at least working with me on other areas. Originally, as most hotels do, I had to block rooms and whatever rooms were not used I was responsible for payment. They are now letting me block rooms and whatever rooms are not booked they will just open back up to the public a couple weeks before the wedding and I will not be responsible for the cost. The downside is still the fact that I have to make sure my guests book their rooms in the next couple weeks as the blocked rooms are only good up until a certain date.
After giving up on the idea that I would make all the bouquets, I finally broke down and went to a florist. I’m in L-O-V-E with the bridesmaid bouquets that we picked out.
Inspiration picture:
- Bridesmaid’s
And here is the inspiration picture for my bouquet:
- Bride
And lastly, I spoke to our photographer yesterday and explained how sorry I was about missing the payment and she was totally cool. A check went in the mail and all is right with the world again!
Now if only I could make some progress on our rehearsal dinner…….
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85 Days…
One minute I feel like I’m right on track and the next minute I’m fighting severe anxiety knowing that I’m knee deep in shit (pardon my language). I’m in the final stages of the wedding planning process and I can honestly say that this stage IS NOT MY FAVORITE!
A few months back I had that revelation that I think all brides eventually have, where you start to “scale back” and only concentrate on the things that actually matter. But, I still feel like there is so much stuff (and truly I think of it as “stuff”) that I’m so worried about.
Whenever I start to question myself I step back, take a deep breath and try to find the “sane” bride that I know is hiding somewhere deep inside.
- What if no one likes the music I picked for the DJ to play? To be honest, my fiance and I like the music and I know my friends like the music so even if we are the only ones on the dance floor it will still be a blast
- What if my dress doesn’t fit after alterations? I’ve lost 30 lbs in the past year, I think if I need to lose 3-5 lbs the last 1.5 months before the wedding I will be fine. I’ve got the resources and knowledge to do this so calm the F down already
- Are we giving our guests enough choices in the booze department? People like free booze and after enough time passes they will be too loaded to even care
- Are guests going to be upset that there are no chairs for the ceremony? Young people can stand and the older guests get a chair with the family. If you don’t like it, plop your butt down on the ground
- What if any of our relatives/guests start “acting up”? We are going to ignore them or ask them to leave
- What if the guests don’t like our casual buffet? We are serving food that fiance and I both like and it tastes amazing. Everyone else can swing through McDonald’s when they leave.
These are only a few of the items that I battle everyday. In the end, the “sane” bride always pulls through and makes sense of it all, but it’s those few moments when I feel like the earth is slowly giving away under my feet that I could do without.
Did any of you “graduate” brides go through this the last few months before the wedding or am I really going insane?
Going through a rough patch……
I’m going through a rough patch in life. I struggle every day to find something positive…anything to make the day a little bit brighter. And lately, I’m struggling even trying to do that. There is a black cloud that is lingering over me and I need it to go away.
My tolerance is stretching thinner and thinner and I’m afraid that I’m going to make some HUGE changes in my life that may shock the hell out of everyone! Most people are going to think I’m crazy….but I’ve spent so much of the past few months thinking about this and I feel like I am prepared to forge ahead with my decision. After all, it is MY life.
There will be surprise….and there will be disappointment….but, I don’t know what else to do. I’m struggling……BAD!!!
Parenting…Not as easy as it looks
My fiance has a 14 year old son and let me be the first one to tell you…parenting is not easy. And step-parenting is extremely difficult. And step-parenting a teenager….even harder!
Teenagers are rarely without something to argue over, worry about, or be annoyed with. Talking back to their parents becomes second nature and questioning authority seems effortless for them. Now don’t get me wrong, I know that teenagers go through changes that are both understandable and expected. However, when these behaviors are no longer what we, as parents, consider “normal” the family goes into crisis mode.
In this uncertain and dangerous world, it is the parents’ job to protect their child until they acquire the common sense of adulthood. And when you, as the parent, feel you have failed in this area, you experience a myriad of emotions – frustration, fear, disappointment, anger and hopelessness. And let me make it very clear that none of these emotions are good for making informed, well-reasoned and thought out decisions.
Parenting is definitely a full time job without any benefits at times. We try so hard as parents to teach our children between right and wrong and it hurts when they make poor decisions for themselves when they should know better. It is hard as a parent to know that teens are going to make some bad decisions, but it is the adults job to stop them any way they can when that bad decision can change the course of their childs life.
I’m doing the best I can…given the crisis we’ve been faced with, but I’m wondering if any of you have any advice on parenting with both head and heart, responding with wisdom and love when children need it most.